10 Reasons Phoebe from "Friends," is Still One of My Idols

She was there over 20 years ago & still is today.

Over the summer, Taylor and I were given an Amazon Fire Stick, and access to his parent’s Netflix account. Our last apartment came with a smart TV, so we were obviously able to hook everything up and watch basically anything under the sun.
It is important here that I note, in the three years we have lived on our own, not with our parents, we have never had cable. We didn’t even have internet until January of this year. So, having this magic Fire Stick really changed our lives.
Upon realizing that we now had access to Netflix, I decided to start watching Friends, again. This is a show that I loved catching as a kid, in the ’90s. I also spent many late nights watching it on Nick @ Nite. It was a show that was always there for me when I was feeling down, and needed comfort. I knew I had seen most of the episodes, but I was excited to watch them from the very beginning, and catch the few stragglers I had never seen.

When I was about halfway through the first season, back in July, Taylor decided he wanted to watch the series with me. When we moved from our old apartment to our new one, we lost our smart TV, because it literally belonged to the other apartment. We tried watching as much Friends as possible, because we knew we were going to miss it. I think we finished season 5 before we moved. A few nights into our new apartment, we ran over to Target and purchased the whole series on DVD. Yes, we were (and are) that addicted.
Yesterday, we finished the second disc of season ten. That means we have two more discs to go, and then we’re done. I’m stoked to see the ending – I know I have seen it, but I don’t remember it that well, so no spoilers! – but I am also sad to see our show go.

Calling Regina Phalange.

When I was a kid watching this show, I didn’t pay too much attention to Phoebe because I was so wrapped up in the love story between Ross and Rachel. Upon watching the series this time around, I have realized how amazing the character of Phoebe Buffay really is. All of the characters have their fun and silly moments. All of the characters have their more dark and dramatic times, as well. But thinking about everything Phoebe went through, really makes me believe that Lisa Kudrow must have had the BEST time playing her.
On the outside, Phoebe is a free-spirited, singer-songwriter, hippie-masseuse. What’s not to love about that? But on the inside, her character has the most depth of any of them. She is an idol for anyone who dares to be themselves in this world, and her message is still relevant, over twenty years later.
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Phoebe has become one of my favorite idols of all time. She is literally the best kind of person. Here are 10 reasons why I think so:

1. She’s genuine.

Phoebe is always, ALWAYS herself. She is never afraid to show her true colors, and expresses herself freely. The best example of this is her music. Smelly cat, anyone?

2. She embraces all of her sides.

Phoebe is one of the sweetest characters on the show. But she also lets her darker side show from time to time. Phoebe has a past, and she is not ashamed of that. Instead, she has accepted it and grown from it.

3. She doesn’t take any shit.

When Phoebe is upset, she lets everyone else know. Phoebe doesn’t let people walk all over her. She will be the first to let others know when they have hurt her, or when they are asking too much.

4. She finds ways to make her spirit happy.

Phoebe loves to sing, and loves to be artsy. She also does yoga, and is a vegetarian. I love that Phoebe is always seeking ways to feel good, and find happiness within.

5. She honors her boundaries.

One of the things I love most about Phoebe Buffay is that she says, “yes,” when she wants to and, “no,” when she wants to. Phoebe never does anything that she doesn’t want to do. And she only says yes to things she does. I love this trait in people. This is how I strive to live my life.

6. She is loyal to her friends.

In every season it is so clear that Phoebe’s friends really mean the world to her. I think this is partially because she doesn’t have a lot of family. But I love that she learned to love these people as her family, and she will do anything for them. I especially love her connection with Joey. Those two make me tear up sometimes!

7. She speaks her mind.

One of the greatest parts about her relationship with her friends, is that she always speaks her mind when they come to her with advice. Phoebe is always true to herself, and I think this inspires the others to be true to themselves, too.

8. She freely gives to others.

Well, I couldn’t finish this post without mentioning how Phoebe was a surrogate for her brother and his wife. She literally opted to do this because she knew how happy it would make them. That’s just the most beautiful and kind gesture I could ever think of.

9. She stands up for her beliefs.

I love any time in the show that Phoebe speaks up against corporations. It makes me giggle because that is such a trait of new-agey hippie people (me included guys, no judging 😘). Phoebe doesn’t back down when she is defending the things she believes in, and she does so with class.

10. She rose above.

The thing I find most inspiring about Phoebe Buffay is that she rose above her past. She once lived on the street, mugging and stabbing people – sounds harsh, I know. But she was able to grow into a loving woman, and caring friend. Her past has made her a stronger person, and there is nothing that comes her way that she can’t handle. That is why Phoebe is such an inspiring idol for us, today. Be like Phoebe; rise above.


What do you think?

What is your favorite Phoebe Buffay trait? Is there anything you would add to my list? What about the other Friends characters? Let me know here, or on social media. And remember, I’ll be there for you!
With love and light,
-Morgan
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